Supporting The New Generation Via “Compassionate Communication”™

SUPPORTING THE NEW GENERATION VIA ‘COMPASSIONATE COMMUNICATION’™[1]

We are brought up and taught during every phase of our life to structure each and every relation with our immediate environment, including acquaintances, family members, friends, schoolmates, teachers, as well as our dearest and nearest. Our reference point tends to be the moral judgements and generally accepted norms that are widely imposed by our society.

While experiencing our relations with others within this context, consciously or unconsciously, we also learn mentally, at the very intellect level, how to use power-over structures in our interactions. In this structure, we apply verbal and nonverbal strategies to manipulate and defeat the other party in order to have so called ‘respect’ from others and gain authority over them.

Having this style in our interactions, we tend to use various ways and methods of communication with others, and ourselves where being ‘right’ is the most important element. As a result, this righteousness attitude governs our every role in the stage of our lives.

The game that we play in the stage of life is called Who is Right! 

Such Who is Right game is well supported by a language and ways of communication that consist of or can lead to various types of violence including verbal to physical acts. A simple word like “selfish” having a personal judgement in it could become verbal violence and may trigger guilt patterns of others or create anger, agony and resentment.

No such verbal communication that includes the above elements, may serve any benefit for anyone. Almost guaranteed, it prevents dialog with any purpose, it be to communicate needs, to express feelings, to exchange ideas, or to establish peaceful and meaningful bonds with people.

Deep inside, we know that we are in need of connecting with each other in one-way or another. Thereby our compassionate soul wants to express feelings and human needs that are already alive in us. We could be a part of this initiative process to change our way of communicating to be more compassionate to each other and ourselves, which may lead and then could help transform our society to provide a more peaceful environment for children and ourselves. Therefore, I propose we may start this transformation by detecting if there is any, and then changing our Who is Right language and methods of communication. Change and transformation would only occur if we become the change itself that we would like to witness in our earth.

Being more cautious about our communication styles and using a more compassionate language could be a unique way to support such personal and ultimately for social change. Instead of utilizing Who is Right language and methods of communication, we could introduce Non-Violent Communication™ to our conventional educational system to make a greater impact on the healthy development of new generations. The efforts of schools, teachers, parents and students themselves could be invaluable in this respect.

Non-Violent Communication™ helps us to enrich our lives through connecting with our needs and feelings and express them in a responsible way as we encourage others to do the same. This increased awareness could provide an educational environment, which promotes creativity and cooperation wherein students as well as teachers find their own voices and help cultivate a more enriching academic life.


[1] Reference to and inspired by the Book called ‘Life – Enriching Education’ by Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D.

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